Other than here in my own space, I think I'll just shut the hell up ... and abstain from commenting on any more public journals or blogs.
Is it just me or am I missing something here?
When a journal or blog is public, with comments open to the public, I make the (obviously wrong) assumption that the individuals writing are open to viewpoints, comments and other opinions. With the way I have been slapped in the face recently on several occasions when I expressed my HONEST (and personal) opinion - stating it is ONLY my opinion and NOT making any judgments or asserting it is the ONLY opinion, it occurs to me that regardless of orientation, there are a lot of people who are very damn prickly about anything that doesn't absolutely concur with their viewpoint.
I know that I have no issue with a healthy debate nor a difference in opinion. I find the diversity of the population something to cherish - and while I can get emotional and involved in a discussion, I never make the mistake of assuming that MY viewpoint is the only valid one.
Further, when I see something that strikes me as dangerous, physically, emotionally or spiritually - it is not in me to refrain from giving my thoughts - although I have decided at this point that as those thoughts are obviously NOT wanted, I think I will just shut up - except here, because damn, it, this is MY space.
God knows, I don't think my lifestyle and how I live it is the ONLY way to conduct a life - I am well aware that the way I live is intrinsic to who I am and who my family and loved ones are and therefore could NOT be applied to other dynamics.
But, but.. the bottom line is that, like it or not, I BELIEVE there are many relationships out there under the guise of M/s or D/s that are in fact plain and simple abuse - that is MY opinion.
I BELIEVE that many submissives I see are exactly the same as abused women I have worked with in the past - characteristic for characteristic ...
What I do NOT dispute is their right to live their lives the way they CHOOSE. I do NOT choose to be paternalistic nor all-knowing - that is derogatory and undermining of an individual's personal choices. I do NOT dispute that whatever emotional, physical and spiritual feelings they get from their relationship is THEIR choice - that is why we live in a society that at least tries to grant personal freedoms.
But conversely, why is it that those self-same individuals who rip strips of me for NOT agreeing with their viewpoints, for not concurring with their vision of a dynamic - (WHILE never disputing their right to it) somehow find it necessry to denigrate and personally attack me for having that opinion?
I don't get it.
In fact it seems to be when something is put out to the public, then you have to anticipate that not everyone will concur with your viewpoint - if not, then why put it out there?
Regardless, I'm going off to lick my wounds. It appears that honest concern is unwelcome and considered proactively negative.