Reading Swan and then Chloe’s blogs got me thinking about the concept of ‘faith’ – because when all is said and done, ‘trust’ is ultimately based on faith – faith in the integrity of the individual to whom you offer that trust, faith that your trust will not be misplaced, faith that the one whom you have entrusted with your heart and soul cherishes the gift and has – at all times – your best interests at heart.
Faith of course is one of those intangible concepts that you can neither quantify, nor touch nor prove empirically. Soren Kierkegaard coined the phrase, albeit he called it a ‘leap TO faith” (the leap being required to resolve the paradoxes implicit to Christianity). That is actually substantively correct – after all when choosing to trust, you are stepping across a void TO something – in this case, a belief.
In and of itself – whether “to” or “of”, the context is clear.
And whether applied to believing in a greater being or believing in the person to whom you offer your submission, the precept is the same. Faith.
Faith in a dominant’s strength of will, integrity and perhaps most importantly, RIGHT to live as he chooses and RIGHT to impart as little – or as much- of a given truth as he sees fit. Because when all is said and done, Swan puts it beautifully – “I'd be a fool to allow that to be the case if I did not have complete and entire trust in His loyalty, integrity, and good faith.”
That one sentence seems to exemplify why a submissive or slave chooses to place her faith and trust in someone’s hands; hands which are, when all is said and done, HUMAN, and thus fallible. Spare me those who cry that their dominant is ‘perfect’, ‘never wrong’, ‘all-knowing’, ‘all-seeing’ – the font of ultimate wisdom – damn, people, that is a fantasy!
“Perfect” works in novels but real people bring with them their own innate prejudices, flaws and perceptions coloured by their personal experiences and desires. Yeah, even dominants.
However, this does not mean that you cannot trust. For when all is said and done, faith is based on making that leap – feeling to your bone that those in charge of your well-being have at heart YOUR best interests.
One chooses to believe in the good intentions; one chooses to believe the individual has perspective and experience to make informed and intelligent choices. One agrees that while it is not always clear why, acceptance and acquiescence are the price of offering that faith.
Truth be told, I’m absolutely blown away by people who have the strength of their conviction.
Faith is something I’ve struggled mightily with the past several years, on every level. From belief in a higher being (i.e. god) to belief in a dominant being (D.) Unfortunately, in both cases, reality bit deep and faith I believed sacrosanct and inviolable was shattered and shredded beyond recognition.
For when all is said and done, one of the cornerstones of being able to LEAP to faith is doing so with the knowledge not only that you COULD fall but the awareness that you very well MIGHT ... and making that leap regardless.
Entwined and inseparable from discussing the concept of faith, comes one’s interpretation of what is required in terms of “honesty”.